Valentines day is here. I always read your beautiful emails regarding love that mostly leave me feeling nostalgic. I am always more than happy to listen, read and share thoughts on the situations you experience in relationships to help you be a better partner, lover and friend.
Loving and being loved is truly a wonderful feeling; if we make it happen every freaking day, not just during days such as Valentines.
It is possible. I enjoy seeing people in love with themselves, loving and being loved by others because I have experienced what that feels like so it is natural that I would want you to experience it too. When you get that kind of love, it makes you unleash all its remnants and shower it to those that matter and the world. Hate and dislike become non-existent and you ooze nothing but positivity and good, loving vibes.
There are so many individuals, broken by their pasts, presents and futures that are stuck in relationships they have no idea what to do with. I saw a quote from a friend shared earlier today and it rings true to many situationships today.
“Be careful who you date. A lot of people are looking for help. Not love.’ – Rev Jide Macaulay.
Do not get blinded by love to not see what your partner’s intentions are for being with you. We have genuine people out here too, remember. Keep your eyes open and do not be embarrassed getting rid of toxic friendships and relationships in your life. Do not waste the chance or take too long making those decisions. You do not owe anyone an explanation. That, my dear readers, is an act of self protection and self preservation and sanity will thank you for it.
Relationships can work out. They might not be easy so you have to be sure that when the ugly side rears, you won’t run for the door. Effort has to be 50-50, what you give is what you get. Issues can we worked out with open and honest communication, dedication and commitment towards a common goal. Support one another to grow as individuals and couple. Let your partner be. Allow them time and freedom to connect with their friends. Do not meddle unless they give you a reason not to trust them.
Stay true to who you are. At the end of the day, it is not the years in your life that will count. The life in your years will. Make it worthwhile. Make no room for regret.
There is no shame in choosing to stay single if it makes the blood in your veins pump better. No one said you have to be in relationship to be happy. Be selfish with the energy and vibration you entertain.
Take yourself out for a movie, dinner, lunch, night out. Go for a walk, read a book, stay in and draw, color, sing, sleep, idle, write, cook your favorite meal. There is nothing as precious as spending time and reconnect with you. Nothing.
You have all my love. Keep smiling. Do you.
Let’s spread more love and kindness, not just to our partners but to everyone, everywhere.
Happy Valentines to You and Yours.