Today is my birthday,
I feel happy and blessed to witness yet another great mile; the chance to start yet another year of my life. Many have not had the chance to step into the third ladder of their life. I have. Many are stuck in hospitals fighting for dear life. I’m not. Others have received devastating test results from their doctors. I’m still here. People have lost their livelihoods, families and every piece that was once whole, scattered to pieces. Another took their life while others are recklessly trying to recover from losing loved ones, to pills, illness, birth, you name it.
I have been down the grief road and can fully attest to how torturous treading it is. Still healing from the pain of loss harbored deep in my heart, every mid-night knife stab nightmare and tearful rises that slowly bring reality home. I have however been blessed enough to explore, try and find my own ways to try and cope regardless, without letting pain define who I am, or interfere with my life entirely. That’s something to be grateful for, ain’t it? Am I special? No. I simply chose to look beyond the torments and focus on thanking God, the universe and nature for their favor and abundance.
I have taken home learnings no book would have provided. You really would not know what you are capable of, until you have to go through the fire. You may not escape unscathed, but what matters is you eventually do.
There are very many things I am grateful for. That list goes on and on and on. Gratitude has taken me places, opened doors, given birth to more blessings than I could ever have imagined. I am still here. A living witness to the wonderful power of mouthing those gratitudes nonstop. Not just saying it, feeling it and letting that flood my being. Gratitude is a way of life, I now know that. You can live it too. Because ‘mindset.’
Anyways, I did not mean to write so much but would hereby like to share with you the following some basic but extremely vital 10 survival tips I live by:
1. Always be grateful for everything you see, touch, feel, receive. Every day. Every way. Say thank you for every one of those things, situations however insignificant. Make gratitude a ritual.
2. Friends may come and go. Let them. Nothing defines family more than those individuals that undoubtedly have your back even in the unlikeliest of times. Those you thought were friends might disappoint while those you never considered ‘close’ ultimately surprise you.
3. Deceit is real. Someone who musters the guts to go around leaking sensitive information you’ve shared with them in confidence and that you think is a friend is your enemy. Draw the line and stick to your true. Do not fight them. They say two wrongs do not make a right. Let it slide. Act a fool. Let Karma carry out its due diligence. They slowly begin to crawl back apologizing. Who’s smarter now, huh?
4. You are what you drink and eat. Be wise when it comes to what you feed your body on. It will thank you as the years go by.
5. Love. Heals wounds. Kindness, empathy are magic even with the angriest of humans. Serve it and notice how it dissolves nasty situations into smiles… and more gratitude (back to 1).
6. Ever grown a thick skin the hard way? You better because with all your uniqueness, there will always be someone or people who find fault in who you are, what you do and the decisions you make. Water your grass. Turn a deaf ear. Keep moving.
7. Nothing angers your enemies more than blocking their access to your life and what you are up to. Discourage continuous gossip. When no one knows what’s going on in your life, what else can they talk about? Cut it all out including connections with those that are friends with them. Do not create hatred during the process. Walk away with your head held high. You do not owe anyone an explanation.
8. Not everyone that stays quiet while you talk is listening. Master the art of observation. That determines your ‘go to’ person.
9. Do not allow what people say you cannot do become a fabric through which you run your thread. Read this again. This is your life, not theirs. So step out there and be.
10. If that shoe fits darling, wear it.
I hope this helps you begin identifying things you should be grateful about, rather than complain about. We do not have forever to live, so you might as well make it worthwhile.
You are loved.